If the above title doesn’t sound like click bait to you, I wouldn’t know what does! LOL. I keep getting asked by different people if I am getting nervous about getting married in well, 17 days. The answer to that is no, I am not nervous nor do I think I will get nervous as the date comes closer.

I am actually ecstatic about getting married to Kyle. When I was engaged in my two previous relationships, I was filled with dread and anxiety the whole time which is probably why I called it quits two out of three times; I just couldn’t handle the pressure more so of a wedding than a marriage. In hindsight, I don’t believe either of those marriages would have lasted long term or if they did, I surely wouldn’t be happy in them.

I finally booked a photographer for my wedding day. I know that it is “just” a courthouse wedding / elopement with 11 guests, but I want Kyle and myself to feel special and always have memories of our wedding because it is considered once of the most joyous occasions of a person’s life. Kyle’s grandmother paid for the photographer which was very kind because good photos are not cheap!

I got my wedding dress on Saturday, the 21st after two failed attempts of trying to find a dress online. I thought I originally wanted a knee-length dress since it is an elopement after all so I thought i wouldn’t want anything too fancy. But I was wrong. The first dress I plain hated it. The second dress was too small and I was also unhappy with it. For shits and giggles, I went to a bridal shop with my mom and the first dress I wanted to try on in the dressing room (I had five options at that point) and it was way too tiny but I tried on all five dresses anyway and was not satisfied with the two that did fit. So I put my leggings and shirt back on and went back to the rack and I was hoping I would find something similar to the first dress I saw and was gravitated toward.

Lucky me, I found a duplicate dress in a bigger size (much closer to my size) and once I pulled the dress up over my breasts I gasped and said this is my dress. Once I walked out of the dressing room, my mom also gasped and said “that’s it”. The dress needed to be hemmed as it was designed for a linebacker and had a humongous train that I hated. The straps needed to be shortened as I have a very … condensed? short? upper body so the straps were too long and would not stay in place. The lady helping me said I would need a corset or a way to close the dress in the back. Today, when I went in to get measured for the seamstress at the boutique, she said she wasn’t going to do a corset back but some other thing. I just kind of nodded and figured it would all work out in the end. I have another alteration appointment to get the dress hemmed on Monday, September 30th. To do all of these alterations, it is costing almost the same amount as the dress itself.

I find it kind of amusing that even though we aren’t having a ceremony with a reception and all the “normal” wedding stuff, we’re projecting or have spent about $5,000.00 not including my engagement ring (which was $2,000.00) so all in all, 7k. I couldn’t fathom doing a bigger celebration and the cost that it would be.

I feel very positive now that I have my dress. All that is left is Kyle’s suit attire and the flowers. We don’t really have a theme or a color scheme picked out so I’ve been holding off on the flowers until Kyle gets his suit and we will go with the color of the tie he picks out. It’s been pretty smooth sailing overall with our wedding planning. I am excited and thrilled to be Kyle’s wifey. I have my vows completed and just need to write them down on a piece of paper (don’t need to be tacky and read it off my phone). Life is good.

I still have yet to start packing to move in with Kyle. I know his grandma didn’t want me moving in really until we got married. But she’s in luck, and by my guesstimate, I won’t move in until after our mini moon (mini honeymoon). We are going to Ocean Shores and my parents have a family friend who have a guest house there and are allowing us to stay the weekend for our mini moon which is very kind of them. I am looking forward to having some time off from work and I know Kyle is too considering he’s basically worked six days each week since we first met while he was on vacation last year. At that time, he only took five days off because his dad had a heart attack and went to go see him since he was ill.

I have a few more updates that I will share at a later date that are not wedding related. But I am trying to keep on topic but my mind goes in a million directions once I start writing so I might have to cut this short.

Much love,

Dani